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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. Human beings need to be productive. They spiral when they are not. [/quote]

Well, there are probably more ways to be productive which doesn't require a path through daycare, preschool, middle school, high school, college, grad school and 40 years of going to a cubicle.[/quote]

So you are proposing a path thru life where your kid(s) do not get educated?   What type of life is that?[/quote]

I'm not OP nor approving her post, just saying that our standard practices can't be the only way to live.[/quote]

There are lots of ways to structure families and lives, but OP is proposing a specific way that I find disturbing. She is suggesting that her children remain dependents until she dies, largely because she likes having them around (there is zero discussion as to whether her kids would enjoy this set up or if it makes sense for them). I have zero problem with multi-generational living, life paths that don't involve college or even traditional careers, etc. But I think keeping your children dependent on you into their adulthood, absent serious disabilities or other reasons why they must be dependent, is selfish and gross.[/quote]

+100 I wouldn't mind sharing my home with my adult children, who are educated, employed, happy in their independent lives, if that was what worked best for all of us. I'd also be happy to live nearby and help with childcare for future grandchildren. I'd hope sharing a home when I'm elderly is an option (my 85 year old mom currently lives with my sister and her family). But this all should be in a context of individual strength and agency and loving relationships, not because your parents have kept you dependent on their money to live.[/quote]

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