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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think when people are getting close to being empty nesters is when stay or split becomes topical. Without kids around do I want to stay with this person for the rest of my life or not? Sure, others split much earlier but often due to infidelity or abuse. I think many people decide to stay together because the known is easier than the unknown plus the financial implications could be a real challenge. [/quote]

When you have different approaches to parenting and most of your arguments are because of that, when the kids launch that stress disappears. So, for many the retirement years are like a second honeymoon phase. My mom and dad said some of their happiest times were once they were empty nesters. They traveled extensively, with and without friends, had so many social outings and loved their grandkids. My brother really put them through the ringer in the teen/early adult years though he turned out fine eventually.  It was nice to see that happiness and closeness.

We are 2 years away from full empty nest and a lot of our friends are there now. The ones that really started to cultivate their activities and experiences together in the years leading up to empty nest are so happy now---and extremely busy.  I found as my teens have become so easy and have their own interests we have more time together.[/quote]

My mother was a SAH helicopter mom whose life was totally child focused to the detriment of both my father and us. For a year or so before the last child left it was clear that depression was setting in and it got worse after we were gone. Therapy helped but not enough to save their marriage. For many years my dad tried to get her to be less child focused because of the risk but she’d get very angry at him. [/quote]

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