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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I don't think you can ban the other parent from taking the child to religious things on their parenting time OP.

[b]I'm very happy that we included Right of First Refusal. Ours starts at 4 hours-basically if the parent who has parenting time cannot care for the child for 4 hours or more, they must first offer parenting time to the other parent before getting other care (in school time is not included in this).[/b] Also our order specifies that parenting time is between the biological parents.

Really spelling things out like holidays, vacations, out of state notifications, future cell phone plans, orthodontics (mine says split cost whether needed or cosmetic, although our dc's is needed), passports, schooling, child contact with parents,  all the things, has been useful for us.

I suggest googling the Florida parenting plan. It's very thorough and will give you ideas of what to put in yours.[/quote]

NP here
Does it cover parties/time with friends?  If your kid's friend has a sleep over party from 6 pm-9 am and you are fine with your kid attending (and obviously you would not be there) can your ex contest this?[/quote]

OP here- the clause I have now that’s applicable to this is that any unsupervised by parent time anywhere other than school, camp, classes requires consent unless we’ve shifted as mutual general rule for any kid. That shift is revocable. Again, will see what flies.[/quote]

so this effectively means that your stbx gets veto power if you want to let your kids stay with your mom. [/quote]

Yeah, that’s fine. They wouldn’t do that. And, if they did, I’d take that alt over some of the stuff that’s been happening any day. Mom can come and hang out while I’m here. I’ve got a limited amt of years left and I just want to make sure they launch without any additional trauma.[/quote]

got it. the right of first refusal can be s great tool for you - just make sure it is tailored for your situation so you don’t get caught in an unintended consequence. for example you can include carve outs for specific relatives, playdates, activities, etc. you may be able to include something about having to agree on a sitter. You don’t want to be in a position where your ex can harass you with it. [/quote]

Thank you. Yes. I really appreciate the thought process this post has led to in terms of making sure that this is specifically crafted to not prevent the kids from engaging in typical age-appropriate activities, work being reasonably managed, allowance for dating within safe parameters for kids, etc.[/quote]

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