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[quote=Anonymous]The dynamics of the extended family when incest is involved are all sick, whether incest is acknowledged or not. It's commonly thought it's a poor mom who could not work who was dependent on a male breadwinner, but, it's not true. Look at how b/sil have reacted.

The literature from this group is very good, OP you may want to take a look at "Family Dynamics in the Incestuous Home."

https://siawso.org/product-category/language/english/

The really destructive thing about incest is that it often costs the victim her family, not just re: enabler of perp, but that the whole extended family becomes that, even in the victim's own generation and future generations. Rape by a stranger does not have as many generational ripple effects.

I'm so sorry, OP. I can feel your desperation to protect your nieces, as you were not protected. Yet, you do not have the power to do so. You can consider legal action, yet, even a conviction, if SOL has not expired, could be downplayed. Often this happens with SFs, SBs, etc., loyalty to them over the actual family member. It's not about them as an individual but the family patterns and sick ways of thinking and avoiding issues and even more often, re-creating generational trauma patterns. Your brother is enabling as was done in the home he grew up in.

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