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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a teacher how would I take it?

Like it was mansplaining the problem to me.

Do I say thanks to a dad  because pointing out all the inequities of the system I as a teacher have no control over, but am held accountable for and am operating within constantly?

I don’t know but we are all aware the system is broken. I guess the question is what is he going to do about beyond pointing out the issue. And will his advocacy lift up the people in the system or tear his kids team down?[/quote]

[b]What would your reaction have been if had been the mom who said this? Or if OP had not mentioned the gender of the parents in her description of the conversation? Would it still be mansplaining? Would you still be annoyed?[/b][/quote]

The weird part isn’t that the man said it.   It is that (according to OP) he was silent through out the meeting and then chimed in at the end with a comment that boiled down to “I don’t think the teacher can really do this.”

If the mom was silent during the meeting, yes I would look at the comment as being manipulative because concerns should be addressed throughout. There are 2 options here for what he wanted:
- he was genuine concerned for the teacher’s workload. OR
- He is concerned his daughter isn’t/wont be getting real services.

He has set up the next meeting where he needs an advocate because he already voiced his concerns (At the very end of a meeting) and they weren’t met.

Sure, leave room for the possibility that he is acting out of concern for the well being of the kid or teacher. It could be!

It feels a bit patriarchal to have a Dad come in at the very end of the meeting (since mom chiming in during the entire meeting) to say “yeah, that probably won’t happen” without saying things throughout the meeting.

If Mom had done that, said nothing throughout the meeting and then was disparaging at the end, no it wouldnt’ be mansplaining, just manipulative.  So, that’s my internalized misogyny using 2 different words to explain the same feeling that he isn’t trusting the teaching team.

Frankly, as a SPED parent and teacher I get where dad is coming from. Unfortunately we have the realities of a teaching crisis and not enough teachers as it is, so few kids are the most optimal development possible, but they are getting a basic education.  This isn’t just a teaching crisis (see the Kaiser strike as an example) but in person workers everywhere are stressed. Maybe he was trying to fight for the teacher, but the way he did it was strange.

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I don't know where people are getting that there was any concern (real or fake) for the teacher here. It clearly wasn't concern for the teacher herself, but rather concern about the teachers ability to actually do what they are assigned with doing.[/quote]

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