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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also on the side of openly inviting her just as you would your son. Paying one ticket (even if it's expensive) is a vanishingly small price to pay to start out on good terms and make your son feel supported. And you even like her! 25 year olds also often have very limited vacation time so may not want to go alone with you (especially if they need to start banking days for a honeymoon). Yes, you are entering a new stage of life in which you should expect less alone time with your son.[/quote]

Totally agree with this! FWIW I was the GF in similar situation 30 years ago. Except my now DH and I had only been dating about 6 months and were not living together. AND I’d not yet met the parents. DH’s siblings were bringing their SO’s on the family trip but they were longer term relationships. I felt weird about it when he asked me if I wanted to go b/c I didn’t know any of them - so I offered to pay for my ticket. He said it wasn’t necessary and a ticket arrived in the mail a week later. I interpreted this as his Mom not really wanting me to come because she’d mailed the ticket without a note - just the ticket. So I sent a thank you note (saying I was looking forward to meeting them, etc.) and a check for the airfare. I felt VERY awkward on that trip because it felt like DH had pushed me on them. The reality is that he probably wouldn’t have gone if I hadn’t agreed to go.

My advice to the OP is to be as welcoming as possible and don’t ask them to pay for the ticket. Family trips are not ‘vacations’ for the spouse/SO. Your family is changing (and growing) embrace it! [/quote]

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