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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would only keep her if you can have an extra spot on the team to keep her.  Devastating some other kid and cutting them is not the right answer either.

Or agree you make her the manager.  Or you personally transition her to another team and environment that's more appropriate for you.  Time to get creative. There is a solution that does not involve F-ing over some other kid.

By the way, if she is less skilled and makes the team anyway the other kids all know it and they will know she got kept on the team because of her personal situation and they likely won't be kind about it.  Not sure you're doing her any favors.[/quote]

Read this twice, OP.[/quote]

Read it three times and realize that, by cutting this girl, you would be like this poster. And you would have to look her widowed father in the eye and yourself in the mirror. 
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Nothing happens in a vacuum.

First, there is a girl that should have made the team on merit.  She is collateral damage.

Second, there are the other girls on the team that will have to deal with the uncoachable and/or unruly behavior.  Potentially disrupting practices, games, and the entire season.

Third, the girl who lost her mother will have a challenging season playing with and against athletes who are superior to her.  There is an opportunity cost to her playing at this level, where she will not improve as much compared to if she played as the appropriate skill-level.  Additionally, a year where you are clearly the worst player on the team will often result in the person leaving the sport.  It happens ALL THE TIME at the middle school level.

You think adding her to the team is a kindness; it is not.  It's not kind to anyone, including the poor girl who lost her mother[/quote]

These are all your insensitive projections. You want to cut out a kid who has been on this team for years lest your snowflake misses a spot. It’s kids sports, it’s not the national team. Continuing this activity is critical for this girls mental health. Cut her next season if you must.[/quote]

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