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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is DS?  What is it that you want your parents and siblings to understand?

Are there special needs at play?[/quote]

15 yo DS. No special needs, just an introverted boy with a small circle of friends who share his interests. My parents want him to be "like them". "Why doesn't Larlo ever do this (play a sport, watch a game,play with his cousins, talk to his cousins)". Just a long list of "why is he like this?" I tried explaining what being an introvert is like and they don't seem to get it. I want them to understand that it is OK to not always wanting to be around people. They see him as being rude,  "he treats us with disdain".[/quote]

How far away are your parents?

I don’t know how I feel about enabling a teen to skip a family holiday to play video games. I think it’s worthwhile to teach kids that sometimes we have to make an effort for family (and vice versa.)

I can’t tell if he’s objecting to a week of intense travel and sleeping on the living room floor on a flimsy air mattress or if he doesn’t even want to spend a couple hours having dinner with grandparents 20 minutes away. The two are not the same at all. [/quote]

The video thing gets me, too. If he didn’t want to be at a circus where he feels targeted, that’s understandable. But if the alternate to that is holing  up to play video games instead of engaging with [b]his immediate family [/b]on Thanksgiving, that sounds like a family where the kid gets to run the show.[/quote]

He is engaging with his immediate family.  [/quote]

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