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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old is DS?  What is it that you want your parents and siblings to understand?

Are there special needs at play?[/quote]

15 yo DS. No special needs, just an introverted boy with a small circle of friends who share his interests. My parents want him to be "like them". "Why doesn't Larlo ever do this (play a sport, watch a game,play with his cousins, talk to his cousins)". Just a long list of "why is he like this?" I tried explaining what being an introvert is like and they don't seem to get it. I want them to understand that it is OK to not always wanting to be around people. They see him as being rude,  "he treats us with disdain".[/quote]

How far away are your parents?

I don’t know how I feel about enabling a teen to skip a family holiday to play video games. I think it’s worthwhile to teach kids that sometimes we have to make an effort for family (and vice versa.)

I can’t tell if he’s objecting to a week of intense travel and sleeping on the living room floor on a flimsy air mattress or if he doesn’t even want to spend a couple hours having dinner with grandparents 20 minutes away. The two are not the same at all. [/quote]

The video thing gets me, too. If he didn’t want to be at a circus where he feels targeted, that’s understandable. But if the alternate to that is holing  up to play video games instead of engaging with his immediate family on Thanksgiving, that sounds like a family where the kid gets to run the show.[/quote]

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