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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP be careful about being so judgmental. You don't know the family dynamics and seemingly nice parents can refuse to accept and properly treat their own mental health issues and those in their children or they refuse to accept learning disabilities.

Also, my sister was like you OP. So judgmental of her friends' kids-now adults if they didn't launch perfectly. She had her child later and is still parenting. My highly accomplished sister is now divorced (had child on her own post divorce with sperm donor), unemployed (her arrogance caught up with her and she was finally terminated), bitter and allowing our elderly parent to pay her bills so she doesn't have to go into her retirement savings or drain her emergency funds too. She still has to pay an after school nanny so she can job hunt and she can't seem to give up the maid and other luxuries. She is not very employable anymore despite all her fancy degrees and accomplishments because of her attitude.

So she launched and is now back to having mommy support her financially. Her son is having all sorts of mental health issues because my sister cannot handle anything but perfection and keeping up appearances. The fact my sister was so judgmental of everyone around her was a sign of her own mental health issues. Now she is falling apart because she has become one of the people she judged.[/quote]

Also, OP, my parents were judgmental like you too. Now my elderly mother hangs her head in shame and disbelief that she has a judgmental daughter who has no way to make an income, a child to support and a fancy lifestyle she cannot afford. The best thing you can do is focus on being a good person yourself, figuring out who your kids are-enjoying and noticing their strengths and getting proper help for their struggles. Live with grace and compassion, not nastiness.[/quote]

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