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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mom of 5th and 6th graders here -- trust me when I tell you that six years old is not the age for "mean girl behavior" and it is likely just a child trying to figure out social interactions. The kid needs to be coached and your kid needs to be coached on how to react to things this child says and does.

I agree with the posters asking for examples - we don't know if this kid said she doesn't like your daughter's shirt or if this kid said your daughter is going to hell or she wants to kill your child. We'd obviously offer very different advice in all of those situations. Please come back with examples if you want good advice. Everything else is just speculation/not going to help.[/quote]

That’s just not true. Six year olds are very capable of mean girl behavior. I had a bully in first grade. She lived across the street and made my life a living hell. Believe it or not, she was jealous of me because a little boy in our class whom she liked had a crush on me instead. She tried to turn everyone against me. She’d verbally attack anyone who tried to play with me on our street and in our class. She’d call me poor and make fun of my clothes (which were actually perfectly nice). She’d make fun of my immigrant parents and our ethnicity, on a daily basis. She’d follow me around on the playground and scream at me. (Of course, that made the little boy object of her affection only like me more and her less. And that of course, that only worsened her behavior.) It was a misery and didn’t end until I beat her up. Why did I beat her up? Because she called my little kindergartener brother a very derogatory term for gay people. I pulled the crap out of her hair and that put a stop to it.

OP please ignore the posters who are telling you that only older girls can be mean girls. Maybe the rest of you have forgotten the horrors of elementary school bullying, but I haven’t. And I recall the mean girl behavior being much worse in first and second grade than later on. By 5th and 6th grade the mean girls start to turn on each other and that’s when their parents start to notice their daughter’s bad acts for the first time.[/quote]

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