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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here, we are both old enough, no money issues (he's actually a big law partner) and date was drinks/dinner. There wasn't alot of back and forth, he actually said he preferred to split on first date. I agree it was kind of tacky. It's hard at first because people are sizing eachother up on first dates for red flags. Being cheap is one of the big ones for me as it was a big deal with my ex. [/quote]

OP, respectfully, I have a slightly different take on this. Maybe, you're looking for too much meaning in the gesture. I think it's something we all do. First dates, especially once one is old enough, are very hard because we are trying to decide everything all at once, and projecting things in the future based on little data. You mention cheap as a huge issue with your ex. Maybe you're hypersensitive to any indication of that, even in the short span of a first date. It's possible that his ex was only interested in him for his money, so he is oversensitive to having to pay for the first date. Who knows? He could be a jerk, or he could be awkward, or he could have an issue. My point is that it is difficult to judge from the first date. If this is the only red flag, maybe go out with him again and give it more time. [/quote]

Very wise, PP. [/quote]

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