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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally.  There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

[b]Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. [/b] Please, sex is not rocket science. [/quote]

You have apparently never known any Middle Easterners or Indians. [/quote]

Actually, I am an Indian. And I was a virgin when I married, as was my DH.  How hard was it to learn how to have amazing sex for us? LOL.  Is there any dearth of material available now?

I am glad that my first sexual experience was with my husband because it was not only with a person who I loved and who loved me back,  but it was also a person who would not betray my trust.  Mentally, it allowed me to enjoy sex fully without guilt or fear, and made it exciting, pleasurable and intimate.

Sex for us was addictive and heady. It cemented our marital relationship because this was our first sexual relationship and we were not going to have other partners.  So there was no reason for us to guard our hearts.[b] Think back to your first crush and sexual experience. That chemistry was lost on some random person. If it would have been your spouse, it would have made your marriage magical. [/b]

Yes, as for sex is concerned - read the forums. No one is having sex with their spouses. People hate each other. People dislike the children they make.  And WASP marriages do not last. How can it? The glue of sex has lost its effectiveness to make marriages stick because it has been relegated to a bodily function like taking dump. 
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I am Middle Eastern and happy I waited until marriage to have sex, but lol, it did not make my marriage “magical.”  And sometimes I do wonder, what would sex with another man be like?  I will probably never know.  I think part of the reason I really love sex is that my husband and I figured it out together and he was receptive to learning what gives me pleasure, but our marriage has a lot of problems.

Marriage can be very hard, particularly if you grew up with baggage.  Waiting to have sex will not fix that or make it better.  It may correlate to other factors, such as a cultural pressure to commit, but that doesn’t mean that Indian or Egyptian or Lebanese marriages are somehow better.  Being unhappily married for 50 years is not an accomplishment, and I have seen plenty of people from the old country who are utterly miserable.[/quote]

This is true but you aren't Middle Eastern [/quote]

Umm... I'm not?  What?[/quote]

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