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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have the money and you are going to enjoy the show, why wouldn’t you pay? Why does he need to pay all the time?

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OP here: my approach is that the asker pays during dating. Same with my friends and family. I find it a huge turn off each paying own way, Venmo costs etc. particular since both of us can easily afford the costs.

If in a committed relationship I don’t mind splitting all costs pro-rata incomes.

He might be dating younger women and paying for them, I won’t be the one who splits the check that early on. We’ve only seeing each other 3 weeks; had sex already so  not playing him. But he’s on OLD obviously chatting with other women. I’m not going out with other guys after we slept but I didn’t tell him. Just don’t want to.

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I find that most grown ups split the costs from the get go. It doesn't matter who asked. It doesn't have to be a Venmo type situation. One time he pays the next time you pay. I find this princess type behavior from women very strange and immature. I'm a woman BTW.

By your own admission you probably make more than he does so why not pay? I like to set the tone early on that we will be equal in everything. He isn't courting me. We are dating. [/quote]

OP here. I did reciprocate -cooked a really nice dinner with expensive  wine for him; took him to my club on a guest pass which is about same cost as his suggested venue. I never even  told him I paid for the pass, just uncomfortable. All dates were low cost for him (couple drinks and us sharing an appetizer). No I don’t expect to be treated like a princess but at the same time I don’t want to read texts that drinks cost $15 whenever he invites me. Yes, it’s a huge romantic turn off for me. When he’s around I still feel sexual but when not, I don’t miss him romantically as much as before sex. [/quote]

He sounds totally reasonable to me. It's still early on and he is not investing a ton of money on dates. That's reasonable when you're dating several people. Did he actually text you "drinks cost $15" or did he just text about the expensive concert? One is cheap, I agree, if you reciprocated in kind with a nice dinner at your club. But concerts can be extremely expensive. You could just say no to the concert and leave it at that.[/quote]

And I did say no to a concert, and will say no to a concert he suggests this weekend. But it will be a month in soon we see each other several times a week, talk on the phone daily which [b]all takes my time and emotions[/b]. I would rather [b]spend weekends with my loved ones and family not being consumed by thoughts about a cheap guy[/b], or thinking what he or I did wrong to forego an interesting activity. Yes he actually texted “drinks are $15”.

I’m leaning towards just telling him I have no bandwidth for a relationship at this time and suggest to meet for sex once a week at my place without sleepover. I do need sex and his good in it. Don’t see why we can’t sleep once in a while safely, until one of us meets a better match. [/quote]

Lady, that's what dating is. It takes time and emotions. Are you new at this?

If you'd rather be with friends and family then do that. You owe him nothing. A month of dating (or screwing around) is nothing. He isn't being cheap. He is being smart. Next time maybe be smart too.[/quote]

If he was that much of a smart catch (and he is very educated and handsome), he would be already taken. He said he had multiple short relationships post divorce and only two that lasted couple years or so. That’s not a good statistics. I suspect he’s not able to bring much to table - people who are cheap are also short on emotional side [/quote]

I suspect the irony of your comments will completely escape you. So, what makes you such a great catch. Why hasn't anyone snatched up such a desirable woman as yourself?[/quote]

Op, please answer this.[/quote]

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