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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ummm… you don’t want your children to hug you or touch you? Doesn’t this seem a little odd? Way to make them feel unloved.[/quote]

Good work, you nailed it.[/quote]

Have any of you guys actually read this book? Being touched out is only part of it. What she saying is it in a country with no social safety net, women are the social safety net. We get taken out of the game when we are still getting warmed up.  Less than ten years in the work force and then we get mommybtracked.  And then, when we find our way back to the world of adults and employment as empty nesters, we find out that we are also the social safety net for our aging parents and often our husbands too. Because society has designed it that way. Women take early retirement to do that care work at an astounding rate.

For me, the most telling passage in the entire book is this description that she gives of her baby shower for her first child. She talks about how because they’re very modern  There are men at the baby shower, and the men all kind of do this number where they roll their eyes and they say yes, the things that you do it’s incredible, I could never do this. And she says they’re referring to giving birth in  pain and suffering which doesn’t actually occur because it has to but rather because the medical system kind of doesn’t care about women’s pain and suffering. And the men rolling Their eyes are in essence, accepting that the pain and suffering is normal rather than thinking about how we might change it. It’s the same way that men roll their eyes and say I don’t know how she does it when they know that their wife is doing all the work and they’re slacking.

she says this whole construct about how women are superwomen is basically so other people don’t feel guilty about making them do all the work. I feel that!! So much!![/quote]

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