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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those with shy or introverted kids still in high school, start working with them now.  Things don’t magically change in college .  Encourage summer jobs, volunteer experiences, and clubs that will get them out of their comfort zone when  they are still in high school.  
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This.  There are so many parents on here that let their kids spend high school in their rooms.  There must be a thread per week on the teenage board with people arguing that this is normal or okay.

Get them out and into the world starting with middle school.  They have to sign up for things that get them way out of their comfort zone.  I have one of these kids and his ability to adapt to new kids and uncomfortable situations grew 10 fold with being immersed into things he didn't want to do: summer camps, jobs, clubs, volunteer experiences, social gatherings, going to school football games, dances, etc.  [b]I basically sent emails on his behalf and signed him up for things again and again through middle school and early high school.  He resisted but I made privileges dependent on him trying new things.  It was exhausting but over time he stopped fearing the unknown and learned to integrate quickly into a new group.  He'll never be super extroverted or outgoing but now in college he's great at navigating new situations.[/b] [/quote]
+1 we did this, too.

My DD is really social and makes friends easily. DS was not. He's a lot better now, but in MS/early HS it was hard for him.  He said all these experiences in the organizations we got him involved him did help him with new situations and people.

When DS started HS, I told DS to get involved and join a club.  He did, and that helped, too.

So, agree with the PP, if you are a parent with such a kid who is in MS/HS, start them early.[/quote]

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