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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just quit a restaurant job and both managers were super toxic. My manager claimed she couldn't give me consistent hours but it was BS because she gave a lot of other coworkers who were glued to their phones and didn't do side work full-time hours. The schedule was released today and I called off. I work every day Friday Saturday and Sunday and most employees don't want to work all weekend but I do it with no problem. So today when I saw they didn't give me hours for 2 other nights I requested [b]I told her to go f herself fatass. She's very overweight. I know that was mean but she body-shamed me for being thin and she could have found a way to give me the 3-6 hours. [/b]She constantly says how she appreciates that I do side work well and that I don't use my phone at work but doesn't value me if she can't give me consistent hours. She said she has to give what the business needs but the business needs a consistent server every Wednesday and Friday evening. I worked in memory care at an assistive living and didn't get tips. I cared so much for the residents. I made sure they were eating well and drinking well. Most are not high-functioning so you have to push for them to eat or find something they like. A lot of them wouldn't drink anything the entire meal so I would hold the glass for them to drink. I know for a fact a lot of the employees didn't go out of their way like I did so residents weren't eating at all for several meals. The assistant manager was very toxic. She would slam dishes around and she kicked a hot box across the room once. Luckily no one got hurt. I hope my next job is more professional. [/quote]

Oh, ffs. She did not "body shame" you "for being thin." Don't be ridiculous. You called her what you called her because you were angry and couldn't stop yourself from being an awful person in that moment.

At any rate, it's over now. Hopefully you will find something better. But try to learn not to lash out, as at some point you are going to need references, and going around calling people fata$$ isn't going to help you get them. [/quote]

Op here. Yes, she did. Thin people can get body-shamed too. It is a thing. It's not something I invented myself so please don't try to sweep it under the rug. [/quote]

Not the PP. Fine. Thin people can also be body-shamed.

Also, you were completely hateful and out of line. You should've been fired before you had the chance to quit for your abusive behavior. Learn to control your temper before your next job. Your attitude is absolutely toxic and you will ruin any work place you bring it to.[/quote]

Op here. My managers would use profanity every day. Did you miss the part when I said she kicked a hot box across the room? Do you know how big those those are? Around 6 feet tall. They were abusive and I decided I had enough. Messing with someone's income is also hateful. I was promised a certain amount of hours when I was hired and they messed with that. I don't think you know a lot about hourly positions. It's sad but being toxic is allowed. I never used profanity at work.[/quote]

You sure are taking this very personally and sound unstable.[/quote]

Right because I stood up for myself and recognized a bad environment. When your income is messed with it's hard not to take it personally. [/quote]

All that may be true, but there is never an excuse to call a manager (or anyone) a fata$$. That’s just ugly, in any context.[/quote]

It's equally ugly to body shame a thin person. The manager was constantly making jokes that I needed to eat a cheeseburger. I'm done being nice when I was not given the same respect.

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I repeat, even if you had 100% justification for being angry and disgusted with your boss, it is not okay to respond in kind. Your behavior was unprofessional, which is true *even if your boss was acting equally, or even more, unprofessional.* Your words made me recoil, even though I understand why you were upset. I would not want to hire someone who behaves the way you did; your “why” would not dissuade me.

I understand you likely won’t face consequences, and the stakes were low, but you need to work on your professionalism and grace under pressure. If you continue to defend your behavior without any willingness to acknowledge it was not your finest hour, it will not serve you in your future professional life.[/quote]

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