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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People,stop it with your horror stories. Just. Stop. I had a sunny side up delivery with a TON of back labor. Know what back labor tells you? To change your position, and to apply counter pressure. Yes,  back labor does hurt, but you'll be okay. I This was another reason I was glad to be a little bit older when I had my baby. I think some younger women just haven't had much pain in their lives. Yes, it "hurts," but it truly is pain with a purpose. And usually your body feeling pain that you can't manage is one of two things: transition or the need to move around and otherwise make an adjustment. I had two happy hospital births but I will say the hospital environment takes you out of your ability to completely get comfortable - the need to be monitored, presence of other people and disruptions, and even the fact that they'll ask you not to eat (and sometimes not to drink!). All of this interferes with your body's ability to manage the situation and can get into your head. I never took any classes because I don't really like classes. I know that probably seems crazy, but I didn't, and I had a good birth. So my advice:

step one: find a care provider who will be committed to doing what he / she can to help you with your natural birth. they do exist, google these threads for names. 
step two: read everything you can get your hands on. Ina May Gaskin's books are required reading - a bit hippied out but filled with information. I also LOVED Penny Simkin's the birth partner. It's for partners, but it really, really was one of the better prep books out there. I also read the birth book by Dr Sears (it was decent, not my fave, but informative) and Husband Coached Childbirth which was odd and patronizing but had some good info on stages (just ignore his weird bits about the position you're supposed to get into because I would have lost my mind in that position). 
step three: see if a Bradley coach will let you take a brush up course instead of the long course (again I didn't take any courses but you may prefer to)
step four: consider a doula (I actually did not use one, but most friends who did use one say it was a good move). 
step five, and this one is the most important: embrace your contractions and believe in your body. Don't fear birth. There is pain, but it does NOT have to be the nightmare that some folks say it is. Yes, labor involves enormous sensations, some of them are nearly overwhelming but you CAN do it. It is NOTHING like smashing your hand with a hammer. It makes me so angry to say that. smashing a hand with a hammer is pointless and damaging. Giving birth is beautiful.

It was literally the most amazing experience of my life.

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[b]People, stop it with your horror stories. Just. Stop.[/b]

Oh goody, a forum nazi who loves. to. punctuate. like. this. Get over yourself.

[b]Yes, it "hurts," but it truly is pain with a purpose.[/b]

ALL pain "has a purpose". Your point? I would never have an appendix removed with anasthesia just because pain has a purpose. When society figures out a way to alleviate suffering, THAT'S called progress and enlightment.

Have an excruciatingly agonizing birth if that's what self-affirmates. But spare us the preaching about how it is the most quintessentially enlightened life-changing experience that any woman could ever hope for. If we're going to go that route, OK, I will preach about how amazingly wonderful I remember my epidural births to be. I was in no pain at all, had total peace of mind, remember with complete clarity everything that happened, and didn't need a "coach" to help get me through totally unnecessary pain.

Even more, I have never felt the need to start a threat about how great my epidurals were just to fish for affirmative feedback.[/quote]

Listen here, asshole. Get off this thread if you can't take what's written. Better for you to go and start a thread about how fantastic your epidurals were than to shit on somebody's thread seeking feedback.

I loved my birth. I LOVED it. I didn't find it to be excruciating in any way. I'm not going to "spare" you the preaching. If you can't endure a point of view that is different from yours, why in the world would you open a thread entitled "how to prepare for unmedicated birth?" Oh, that's right, to shit on it. You just can't hack that someone else didn't find childbirth to be equated with suffering in ANY way. I didn't. I liked my birth. There were painful moments but they are not really what I remembered. I needed no "coach" to get through it (if you are talking about a doula, I didn't need one). But why are you so offended by the way I gave birth, by the way OP wants to give birth, that you specifically opened a thread to spit negative thoughts all over it? You're not a secure person - it's quite obvious. Sad for you. But that's okay, keep on keepin' on, lady! [/quote]

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