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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh man, this hits home.  I was raised in Texas and would NEVER have done such a thing, it was like spitting in someone's eye.  Now I live here and friends of DH's have taught their 6 year old to call me "Jenny" - no Ms., no Larla's mom - and every. single. time. my initial reaction is "wtf did you just say???"

The kid is doing nothing wrong because her parents literally told her to call adults by their names.  But I cannot get over how upset it makes me, and it makes me think the kid is a brat even though she is obeying her mom and dad.

So no, I don't let my kid do that, not at this tender age.  If she grows into a bratty teen who tries it out to test boundaries I won't be shocked, but a little kid is not on par with an adult and it's weird and off-putting to pretend otherwise.[/quote]

So, given that you're upset, I assume you asked her to call you Mrs. High-and-Mighty and she refused, right? Because obviously if you have a legitimate reason to use a particular title you wouldn't hesitate to correct others.

Did she give a reason why she won't use the title? [/quote]

No, because her mom told her in front of me to call me Jenny.  So I'm trapped in a situation where I'm either gainsaying a parent to their child, or listening to a kid obey their parent even though it makes me deeply uncomfortable.  The polite thing to do is to suck it up, not make everyone else uncomfortable.  But I get that someone who thinks basic courtesy is "high-and-mighty" might be lost in this interaction.  [/quote]

Many posters here are saying they prefer to be called by their first name. Why is it better for them to "uncomfortably" correct others, rather than for you to do so?[/quote]

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