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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's clear up a few things:

1) It would never occur to me to send a blast email saying that DD made varsity or DS was named first chair. That just feels odd. It does feel appropriate to mention things like this in conversation with MIL, whether it be coming from me, DH or the kid in question. They are her only grandkids and it's great that MIL can take an interest in their lives.

2)[b] I've repeatedly asked and been told that DH and I would be included in the emails,[/b] but never have been. My point to MIL is that we would like to be part of celebrating our kids if she shares updates and would like for our kids to see the love and support they are getting too!

3) I often learn about[b] the email threads in passing[/b], after the fact.  Like when DH's brother congratulates a kid on something we haven't told him. Or that time a well-meaning aunt started talking to me about "Team Larlo" and how MIL had been keeping them on the edge of their seats with all the details of his current sports journey and I was like team whaat???

3) MIL often sends updates about others in the family and doesn't exclude anyone, e.g. "Let's all congratulate Larla on passing the bar, her new promotion, buying a new home, new puppy (isn't he adorable!!!!) etc." I get updates about people I've never even met but excluded from the ones about my own kids - that's my issue, plain and simple.

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So have you actually SEEN large group emails with a dozen or more people on them that did not include you?  I'm not accusing you of anything, just trying to piece together something that might make sense here.

Is it possible that MIL, like many women of her generation, just talk a lot to friends and family and that conversation is often about the grandkids?  I know my MIL spends half her day talking on the phone, sending emails and texts with people and that she shares a lot about my kids.  I have no issue with that and am glad it brings her joy.  I also hear similar things from people that know a lot more about my family than I ever directly told them.

That is different than sending out some sort of detailed newsletter to a large distro list....[/quote]

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