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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most women are controlling... men must...

clean kitchen including wipe stove, sweep, wipe all counters, nothing soaking or they are children
put kids to bed exactly how she does
do morning routine exactly how she does. 
when she goes out she comes home and immediately does a full analysis of what food was fed to the kids, homework checks, bedtime checks and they yells at husband because spelling words still need to be done (call the presses)

I can't even imagine how men deal with these women and pay all the bills and support their "hobbies". WTF... why did you ever let it get this bad.

You let her become a child and now she is acting like a child. Get a job!

Sure she will get 1/2 but you say get therapy for your anxiety or GTFO.

Come on man![/quote]

The things you are complaining about doing seem like normal things.  Didn’t your parents do these things while you were growing up (Wipe counters, sweep the floor, do the dishes, go over your spelling words, put kids to bed)?

I would be annoyed too if this stuff wasn’t done.  I would have planned on having an evening out with friends and then coming home, maybe have a drink, and have sex with my husband.  Now I have to finish cleaning the kitchen, scrub whatever is soaking in the sink, and plan on getting my kid up early in the morning so we can go over spelling words.  That kind of sucks.

Anyway, this all seems pretty normal and very different from what the OP is talking about.  [/quote]

Those things can wait till the next day. I learned not to be OCD, crazy control freak. Did you mom hit you with wire hangers if you used them?

No actually you don’t have to finish scrubbing leave it … live a little.[/quote]

You know what, if my husband was like, “I am planning to get up extra early tomorrow morning/get home from work early tomorrow afternoon and get the dishes done and the kitchen cleaned up,” I would be totally fine with that.

In reality though, the next day, he leaves for work at 6:45 and doesn’t do them.  The kids and I have to get ready and leave by 7:30 and we don’t do them.  No one is home until 4:30 in the afternoon, and then there is soccer and ballet and piano and homework.  He shows up at 6:00 expecting dinner (because he is the main breadwinner and I work part time), and the kitchen still isn’t wiped down and the dishes are still in the sink.  
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I know your crazy brain thinks you made a point but you didn’t.

Now you make dinner and that night the kitchen gets wiped down and magically nobody died.

It’s okay honey, I think you should try it, only wipe the counter every other night. It’s a small start in your exposure therapy.[/quote]

No.  I don’t know what happened in your home growing up, but feeding your children on tables/counters that are visibly dirty is not normal.  This is not me or your wife being “OCD.”  
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Your 2nd challenge for exposure therapy … camping. Eating at a dirty picnic tables.

Yea you’re a little OCD and very controlling.

I’m not kidding your life will be infinitely better if you can get over being a control freak. Your kids and H will actually like you[/quote]

I don't get the feeling that a lot of people like the person posting this. They seem controlling to me by constantly putting down others rather than just stating their own thoughts. If you want to live like a slob, it's actually not that hard. Live by yourself or find someone else with a similar goal. You will be more likable because you will have found your match. Not that hard in America to find. [/quote]

I thought that this poster seemed kind of controlling too.  I posted earlier in this thread about my husband being kind of controlling, and this is the kind of stuff he would do.  Not being a slob, but coming up with some “new” way of doing things when I was out for one evening, and insisting that this was the way it should be from now on.  
I.e. “The counters/table should only be cleaned every other day from now on…the kids eat on plates, we use dirty picnic tables, and it will save us time.  Even though I have no experience with this, and you have been doing it every day for the last 1,000 days, your way was wrong.  Aren’t you glad that you have me so I can tell you the correct way to live your life?”

I don’t know if OP’s wife is like this, but if it were my husband, I would reply to this by saying, “I am happy to give your way a chance.  I liked my way, and I think it’s nice of me to be flexible here, don’t you?”

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