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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I come from a family of four. Two of us launched easily/successfully. The other two didn't. You know what the difference was? The two kids who struggled had VERY SIGNFICANT mental health and/or cognitive challenges.

Your kids aren't struggling because it's fun - it's more likely that there are other barriers for them, perhaps ones you know about (but maybe ones you don't).[/quote]

This is true but it still doesn't mean anything goes and the parents are an unlimited piggy bank. My brother was diagnosed and treated for ADHD from elementary school and was like this in his 20s. I get that he needed more help, but expecting your parents to do and pay everything for you *and still* lashing out at them and blaming them for all your problems is not fair and ok. Fortunately he's in a better place in his 30s, but people who are struggling still don't get to treat others like crap. [/quote]

Try being in his shoes. I come from a family of academically gifted kids excluding one. 5 kids and one had dyslexia. My parents did everything they could to help him but no matter what he always felt less than. He would never choose to have dyslexia. He wasn't a screw up but has money problems. The rest of us did great in college, had great jobs, nice bank accounts and he joined the military. He loved it but could never move up much in rank because no matter what, reading was hell for him.  It is hard to grow up and see other people do basic things easily when you can't. From the time you are young everything and everyone tells you or shows you that you are less than. We all were careful to not brag and to support him but our lives can't be denied. He isn't comfortable around us and he doesn't go out of his way to see us. It's sad. [/quote]

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