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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Plan a call every X days at a particular time and tell her you'll talk to her then.[/quote] This. Anxiety responds well to structure and predictability. Set that up and stick to it. If you can only handle 20 minutes, let her know. Have a list of answers you can give if she asks annoying questions. I disagree with the person who says to redirect it to having her help you with things. If your mom is self-absorbed she cannot handle helping you and this could set off rage. Any decent mentally healthy mother who is able bodied and loving would be offering all sorts of help and making the focus on your needs. That is not what we have here. The last thing you want to do is make an anxious unstable person face the fact she is selfish by making requests she cannot handle. Meet her where she is and have boundaries. If she wanted to help she would. She is not offering it. If you can handle once a week with rules, set that up and enforce it.[/quote]
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