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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh I tend to ask questions when I intend to reach out to offer support. I don't know what to say otherwise, so I ask questions. And also, my mom is the same way and I hate it.

I don't know if your mom is like me or not. Tell her you know she's worried about you but all her questions just make you feel overwhelmed. Sometimes you just feel better when you're NOT thinking about all stuff, and the questions just force you to think about your illness when you have OTHER responsibilities to deal with.

Give her suggestions. When she's worried about you, she should text you with "how are you feeling today?" Or "I'm going to the grocery store, can I get you anything?" Or "need anything today?"

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This is OP. I think she would worry less if we were in the same city and she could pick up something at the store for me (I assume). But we aren’t in the same city, so all she can do is worry.

Honestly, even “how are you feeling today?” isn’t an easy question for me considering I’ve been sick for 4 months. And I always feel like crap. I completely understand why she wants to know. But there’s nothing really to report. Just trying to figure this out and keep going and feeling like hell.[/quote]

When she asks detailed questions, can you redirect? Like when she asks what you ate today, you can say, “Mom, if you really want to help, you can have a meal delivered for the family on Thursday night.”  Then let her respond.  Next time, she asks, say something like, “mom, if you really want to help and be involved, can you pay for a housecleaning?”

I think if she’s going to be all up in your business, you may as well let her know what would actually help you and maybe make your life a little less stressful. Redirect her energy into something positive if possible. [/quote]

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