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[quote=Anonymous]OP, 
We have varying degrees of inherent touchy-feely-ness in our family, and I do think that it's normal to get sick of giving out something that isn't natural to you ALL DAY.  That said, if you are feeling some degree of distaste for her touch even at times when you are refreshed and rested, then I would seek therapy to explore your end of all this.

Some things that help in our family:  
1) Preemptive snuggling.  We have touch built into ritual parts of our day:  We wake up and snuggle for a few minutes, we have a special big goodbye hug at parting.  We have a BIG squeeze and two big kisses at pick-up.  We hold hands and pray before dinner.  We have a last long cuddle during books before bed.

2) We talk a lot about how everyone needs different things, and give everyone some breaks when they ask for it.  We typically turn on some music and take a break from the activity (talking, touching, etc.) for one song.

3) I truly do buy into the love language theory, and while everyone needs all forms of love to some degree, for many kids, there is one expression of love that speaks to them more than others.  So for us, the child who most needs touch, we are really, really careful about how we touch them.  We feel strongly that angry or unkind touching is more hurtful to this child, so we are very careful to "scold with words, praise with touch."[/quote]

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