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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - I’m really not trying to be a jerk. I am being judgmental, that’s true. and I didn’t give any information about me. I just honestly have had a hard time figuring out how to deal with her oddities when they impact me - during visits, money asking, judging me, kids.  Not in the abstract. I was just thinking I may have more empathy if I understand her better. [/quote]

You will never understand her, but the standard advice is to not engage. Give her pat easy answers, even half-truths. Withhold info if she is judgy.  Continue to be friendly and a good host when/if she visits. [/quote]

Don't give her money (or a form of income) it only gets worse, OP - she will become entitled. Change the subject if she asks you for money.

Judgy people gonna judge.  Give her limited information and have limited contact. Let your DH deal with her - if he wants to - she has her husband, she is not alone.

Anxious people become more anxious with age.  The self congratulatory stuff is insecurity.  MIL has this, and we just go along with it, because she is also very argumentative and tends to disagree for the sake of it.  She wants to feel important and noticed. You have to humor them as much as possible. [/quote]

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