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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I sympathize with your frustration, but I think you should try to be grateful that there's a kid who seems to genuinely enjoy your child's company and accepts the invites. I wouldn't cut back the invites, because you're doing this for your child (who can probably benefit from as much social exposure as possible), not for your own needs.

I have ASD, and I can count on my fingers the number of times I was invited to anything by the parents of my friends, despite being quiet and carefully polite. However, my parents encouraged me to invite others to us for movies, pizzas, visits to the arcade, theme parks, and so forth. I think the prospect of a treat enticed kids to come when some of them might otherwise have said, and so I got some badly-needed socialization.

As an adult, I have learned to mask, as has my also-ASD spouse. Neither of us are really socially comfortable with people we don't know well, so we find it hard to host (and often find it hard to accept anything other than a drop-off invite) because it's stressful for us to socialize with other parents.

So please keep in mind that the parents of an ASD kid may have ASD themselves, and it's possible that they really do not feel equipped to deal with an ADHD kid without coming dangerously close to a meltdown themselves.[/quote]

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