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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]$3500 in expenses after mortgage and savings is a lot. You should have very limited childcare/camp expenses because you SAH. You should also have limited eating out/convenience food because you’re at home and able to meal prep.

I make a little less than your DH, and my monthly expenses are $3500 but that includes $1000 in childcare expenses, and a lot of convenience expenses because I’m a single parent.

I think you have a distorted vision of what a $250k HHI lifestyle looks like. It’s not living large, especially when you have two kids.

But finances aside, it sounds like you and your DH are not a team. I suggest therapy to figure out how you got here, and how to right the ship, so you can start functioning like a cohesive unit.[/quote]

On the occasions my spouse grocery shops, the bill easily comes out to over $100 for ingredients for one meal. While I try to manage with $200 for the whole week. And it’s my spouse who wants the big expenditures like family vacations in remote and exotic places, or to build a home theater, or an extra hobby luxury vehicle. And it’s my spouse who, when I have to be away, takes the family out to eat at expensive restaurants. While I am always looking to cut expenses, my spouse doesn’t.[/quote]

And does he take the money for those things out of the 3500 account or from his separate funds? [/quote]

Those things I listed above are taken out from separate funds that I don't have access to. [/quote]

Ok, what exactly does the $3500 pay for, and what is the monthly budget for each?[/quote]

Pretty much everything else and all the monthly expenses.  Utilities, phone/internet, car insurance, medical bills, groceries, restaurant/takeout, haircuts/personal care, clothing, kids sports/activities/camps, household supplies, garden and yard supplies, home repairs, home furnishings, streaming services, kids allowances, birthday/holiday/wedding gifts, smaller weekend vacations and getaways, school fees and supplies, charity donations, museum memberships, etc.

Spouse pays for property taxes, and things they like to spend money on: about 70% of our dinners out, pool membership, 70% of the alcohol, the larger vacations, the bigger home renovation projects, hobbies, and random "fun" gifts for the kids[/quote]

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