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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m exceedingly polite, and model it, and my kid is polite to others but a rude  princess with me . So I don’t think being polite is a magic bullet for parents. [/quote]

This! I'm super polite and my kid has great manners with other people. Still stuff to work on (she tends to monologue a bit and can be an overshare, though it comes from just being gregarious) but she is never rude or unkind to others.

But with me? She can be downright awful. And I don't just put up with it -- I insist on pleases and thank yous and don't allow her to order me around or make rude noises at me. There are always consequences for her rude behavior. But it persists.

The books say she takes it out on me because she's working so hard to have manners at school and around others. Brutal if true![/quote]

I’ll take this one step further. She’s been taught to be so polite that she doesn’t feel like she can let her real feelings show. She can be a doormat sometimes. She needs to learn to talk through her feelings with you and with others. Validate and don’t judge them.

She takes it out on you because that’s what kids do. The amount she takes it out on you shouldn’t be so much.

(I’m not disagreeing with you that modeling politeness isn’t the correct path, some kids just twist it)[/quote]

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