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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 25 year old oxycodone addicted son wants to move back in. He has dabbled in heroin (won’t admit it).
I know because he couch surfed for a while and ended up staying at a neighbor shortly.

I have a 17y/o in HS.

Should I let him stay and for how long. My 25y/o has been doing God knows what since age 19.

Drugs started at 16/17.

He tells me the last time we spoke that he considers his life to be over and no point going back to school or get a job. He’s waiting to just ”kick the bucket since he’s basically almost 30 which means his life is over”. Direct quote from him.

Should I just let him do what he wants and move in?

Please spare me the judging we’ve tried everything. [/quote]

If you turn him away, be prepared to bury him.
Are you resdy to always wonder "if?".

He's high suicidal risk.

Don't be taken advantage of, but get him in rehab.
Even as an out patient and as a firm condition of his coming home.[/quote]

This is too much to lay on the OP. You’re basically saying that if she can’t get him into rehab she’s contributing to his death. That’s disgusting.

She can’t make him go to rehab. She also can’t prevent his death by allowing him to move in. [/quote]

I'm saying the odds of him not committing suicide greatly increase if he has support from home which he is positively seeking. 
Nothing is 100%.
It pretty obvious you've never dealt with a suicide in your family and I pray you never do.[/quote]

Here’s the problem though. OP may sacrifice one kid trying to save another. Sophie’s choice. [/quote]

I personally think the risk of that is low.
Definitely strict boundaries must be set with accountability.
And a mitigation or/ and an exit strategy if it blows up.[/quote]

And what would that exit strategy be?  You can’t just kick your kid out - you have to evict them which is a five month process right now in montgomery county. [/quote]

Assuming hard drug possession or domestic violence, that is usually just 1 police call away to get removed from house.
I've never heard of a 5 month eviction process, but I am in FFX county.[/quote]

They get removed (for Jail or hospital) but unless you qualify for a protective order, as soon as the kid comes out of the hospital or jail, they can come home. This is not unique to montgomery county - that reference was related to the time frame. I am in this position this week so I am acutely aware of the process. [/quote]

You must have some unusual circumstances.
I have evicted someone (rental) in less than 30 days.[/quote]

That’s pretty a pretty unusually short time frame for an eviction procedure but it truly is dependent on location. [/quote]

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