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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a 14yo and a college student, and I'm convinced that zero good comes from heavy-duty dating at the younger ages. My oldest had his first girlfriend at about 15yo but it was very limited - dates at the mall and school functions. That seemed fine; anything more is too much at that age.

[b]IMO the emotional nonsense is at least as dangerous as the other stuff.[/b] I have a friend who went exclusive with her first boyfriend in MS until he dumped her at the beginning of her senior year of HS. It crushed her and left her crazy insecure and a train wreck with men for years. She still talks about this guy as the 'one who got away,' decades later.    [/quote]

this. emotional stuff is more dangerous than sexual stuff. break ups can be devastating for adults, and 14 year olds completely lack perspective. they think there will never be another person for them.[/quote]

+1  One of my friends in high school attempted suicide when her boyfriend dumped her, and they were very chaste church kids who had not done anything under-the-clothes.  Sex was not the problem, the relationship was the problem.  She was just completely enmeshed and had this idea that this was her perfect person/soul mate/she was never going to love again.  (She's fine now, lives abroad with her husband, had a lot of therapy after the fact.)

Kids' brains aren't set up to make good choices in stressful situations, and relationships (especially first time relationships) are very stressful.  My rule is group hangs are great, having a crush is normal.  You don't need a bf/gf, although if there's a dance you can have a "date" for that one-off occasion.[/quote]

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