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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The point is the HARD line.  Being those parents who say absolutely not and then are clueless that your kids are going behind your back without your knowledge because you forced their hand.  And now they don't have you to talk to about their crushes and potential innocent relationships.  And then they get all of their advice online or with their friends or the people they are sneaking around with.

Unless your kid has no electronic device and doesn't go out with friends without you, there are always chances they are "dating"  Not knowing makes it a lot less safer in my option.  So I am not a hard line no type of mom.  I listen to my kids and see what they have to say. [/quote]

Why is it so difficult for you and others to understand that there are parents who have close, healthy relationships with their young teens? There are families who communicate. [b]This fantasy of a 14 yo running amok with some secret sex life is absurd[/b] to those of us who actually talk to our kids daily. We look at them, we pay attention and we sure as shot notice when sonething's...off. This is the hard work of parenting: you don't give up in the home stretch. You teens need you more than ever BECAUSE they are not known for their good judgement and impulse control. Talk to your kiids, people , and LOOK at them when you do so.[/quote]

Hard line moms like you treat an innocent crush and hanging out with a secret sex life?   :shock:  THAT is the problem and your teens know that.  They know they can't talk to you because you are ridiculous. Sure you might THINK you communicate and they tell you the truth 24/7 on everything.  You can have those wonderful thoughts.

The fact is most kids have crushes, hang out with kids of the opposite sex, and text/snap with the opposite sex, and see them in and after school every day and also on weekends at public places.  They also decide sometimes that they have "boyfriends" and "girlfriends."  But none of that is some secret sex life.  Good God that is disturbing of you.  It is the beginning stages of being attracted to others, flirting, learning to communicate, express feelings, and have butterflies in your stomach.  All of that is completely normal for a 14yr old and you can't force your kids not to have those feelings.

And the fact that you think you are the better parent just shows how clueless you are.  You don't communicate.  You just set rules and they obey and you eye them up and get crazy if they seem off to you?  ok :lol:

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