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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your spending must be out of control if you don’t have enough saved on that income.[/quote]

OP here.   To answer various questions.  Our earnings spiked up about 8 years ago.  We had enormous medical costs up to that point, so our savings weren't what they should have been when we needed to start paying for college.

Yes, we have "enough" money to retire.  We can sell our house and pay for a nice condo with cash.  We can just retire more comfortably if I work longer.  I agree that my husband should certainly be able to retire at 70.  I'd just rather tighten our belts than grind out 3-4 more years.  We still have one child at home.  It's still me doing after-sports pick-up, racing home to make dinner while supporting academics, and then logging back on at 9 PM to finish my own work.  DH has been working remotely for years and I envy the freedom to work from a coffee shop or while out on a walk.  It's a rare day that I can stop by Starbucks or leave work to get lunch out.  I'm just looking to end this grind when DS leaves for college.  No way will DH change his habits now.

The poster who seems to have a problem with me is, I suspect, the one in the relationship who considers his/her paycheck the contribution to the household.   
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ffs OP, you've been doing everything. Do you think your DH will pick up the slack so you can just focus on work. No, he won't. Just retire. What's he going to do? Divorce you?  I don't think so. [b]He knows he'll need a caregiver in about 5 to 10 years. That will be you. So, you've got like a 5 to 8 years of actual retirement when you can relax until you will go from caring for your children to caring for your aging old fart.[/b][/quote]

Lol at this new DCUM obsession that elderly women are conscripted to a life of servitude as a caregiver.  Women live like two years more than men on average so are usually in not much better shape than their husbands.  Oh, and by the way, women suffer the exact same age-related maladies as men - about 75% of nursing home residents are women.[/quote]

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/why-men-often-die-earlier-than-women-201602199137[/quote]

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