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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know any men who are this self aware to even realize this. But yeah, my dh is my junior partner. I call all the big shots in parenting. He still does 50% of the work however and of course we discuss everything together. [/quote]

Some guys are much more sensitive to the idea of not being in charge, and they are the ones who pick up on the dynamic and bring it up. They aren't self-aware. Self-awareness would require them to think about WHY they are the junior partner and why role they might have played in creating that dynamic. Rather, the guys who complain about this (and some of them are on this thread, btw) only notice that they don't like how it feels when their wife gives them tasks to do or instructions for how to do something, and they reflexively get mad about being treated like the junior.

A self-aware guy would think "well why did my wife have to ask me to feed the kids at 6 when she was running late? shouldn't feeding my children at their normal dinner time be something I just do? why should I need to be told to feed my children?" A self-aware guy would think "well I guess my wife gave me instructions for how to get the kids ready for school because I've literally never done it before, since I leave for work before she does and I just leave it to her to deal with every day -- she's probably learned some valuable things from the hundreds of hours of experiencing doing this and is trying to help me learn from her mistakes."

Most men are not self-aware though, so instead they just go "Stop talking to me like I'm stupid! I don't work for you!"[/quote]

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