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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think it is clear that he's not someone you should stay married to.[/b]  Has he always been unsupportive?  If you do have a kid, what do you think this would look like?  Maybe look at the silver lining and get out before you try to keep having kids with him. [/quote]

Lol, the DCUM harpies can't bear to see anyone in any condition other than their own single and bitter state.

Yes, OP, you should divorce immediately.  :roll: [/quote]

I think OP should divorce so her husband can find someone who knows what it means to make decisions together without coming back and blaming one person when things don't work out as planned.

I have a friend( lawyer) who became SAHM  after her DH convinced her to do so so he can focus on his business. He had these big tech dreams and while she was reluctant, she accepted. 15 years later the business crumbled after a partner embezzled so much from it and the tech ideas were not that great.

My friend started talking about " I can't believe Jack made me stay at home. He messed up."

I shut her down really quick, especially after her everyone told her not to stay home ( including me, a fellow SAHM).

Women are adults who can agree or disagree to decisions. You don't get to come back when things go South and blame others. I know countless women who waited to have children and they are very glad they did. It's crazy that it's now OP's DH's fault because things did not work out[/quote]

You are way off base. What was OP supposed to do, force him to get pregnant? Lie about birth control? Leave him and start over looking for a new partner? She had no options that would put her in a better position. He bait and switched.

And by the way, hew crying, anger are completely normal. For a woman, especially one who wants children so much, this is one of the greatest losses of her life. [/quote]

Yes, you leave.

How I'd leaving any different from dating a boyfriend for 2 years and then finding out he I'd not the one ?

You marry someone and discover a year in that they changed their minds on something this important, you can choose to leave. You don't stay hoping things will workout only to put all the blame on the other person when they don't.

There are people who divorce within the first few years of marriage and marry again. There are others who become single mothers. If she did not want to take these options, she agreed with her DH. It's called compromise. It happens a lot in marriage.

If you get resentful for compromising a lot, you go see a therapist. Or you get a divorce. I bet she'd still happily have a child with him. It's all good as long as the baby comes, right?

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Her leaving would make having a child even more untenable. Very difficult to meet, marry, and get pregnant right away with a new partner. She is not trading in a car.

He absolutely misled her, wether intentionally or not. Her being angry at him and her own self is a completely normal emotion in this situation. Not productive but totally normal. And yes you can be angry with someone and still love them. Life is not black and white.[/quote]

People change their minds all the time.

And his reaction to her anger and crying while blaming him is completely normal. No one wants to be blamed for a decision that was made as a team.

You can also divorce someone you love...

And there are sperm banks, so having children on your own is very tenable.[/quote]

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