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[quote=Anonymous]He’s not sympathetic to you because you’re not just crying and sad. You’re obviously very angry at him and blaming him for the situation—a sad, stressful situation that both of you are in that is no one’s fault. That’s probably the mental problem to which he referred.

Even if he had agreed to have children the instant you originally wanted to, you might have faced the same infertility problems. They can happen to anyone, just randomly. Also, he wanted to delay having children and you agreed to it. As an adult you have to own your choices. You had choices—you were not forced to do anything.

Infertility is obviously very painful and sad and having gone through problems I understand the strong feelings involved. But this is a problem that affects *both* of you. You seem oblivious to the fact that he also is hurting and might need comforting in some way.

Instead you’re just blaming him and angry at him. It’s like you’re determined to see him as this horrible horrible person, who not only endangered your chance to have children but now won’t even comfort you as you cry! Do you seriously think he is some monster like that? If so, why do you even want to have children with him? And if not, why are you treating him like this?

If he’s a basically decent guy, facing you weeping but also full of anger and blame, of course he’s not going to be sympathetic to you. To do so would be to sort of to agree with your feelings that he is to blame.

The two of you were in a crappy situation and he probably is sad and wishes that you guys could come together at this time and support each other and work towards solving the problem. That’s not going happen if you see this is as his fault, Rather than just something sad that sometimes happens to people.
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