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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

BIL is a plumber. He’s going into retail stores and doing jobs such as (example) installing new toilets in the employee bathroom. So he’s in a back room while his kids are sitting out in the store by themselves, unsupervised according to my DH.

I will mind my own business. I am struggling to bridge the gap between my previous post and this one. There was an overwhelming response that I should take their kids in for an evening so my BIL/SIL can go out and have a night to themselves. Some posters suggest that I have a duty to my nieces and need to facilitate a cousin relationship.

So, in that familial duty there’s no responsibility on my or my DH’s part to say my BIL is being an idiot: driving around for hours per day with them in the car, taking them to non-kid friendly places with nothing for them to do and leaving them unsupervised.

I will shut up now though, because I do see the point. They’re his kids, not my responsibility. [/quote]

This is completely different.  Taking your niece and nephew for an evening is different than providing childcare.  I like hanging out with my niece and nephew occasionally.

I have such fond memories of going to work with my parents and extended family.  This included retail stores and hanging out in back rooms or in the store and construction sites, both in the office and on the job.  As an adult I realize it was because money was tight and getting childcare just wasn’t a thing.  As a kid, I loved the different experiences.  Stay out of it.

My husband had similar experiences.  We had childcare for our kids but he frequently took them to work with him anyway because they liked being there.  Now as teens, they sometimes come to work as a part time job, again, because they want to be there.  [/quote]

Agree — MYOB.  My mom was a SAHM but sometimes had to leave one or both of us kids at my dad’s work.  I absolutely loved it.  Like PP it was probably because my parents couldn’t afford a sitter but I had fun.[/quote]

My kids went to work with DH on occasion (medical office- private practice) when they were younger, if there was some sort of childcare or school schedule issue. They loved it. They’d hang out in the break room, play on the computer, watch tv etc. Got tons of attention from the staff and even met some of his patients. Helped with small mundane tasks (minor sorting or filing, etc) when old enough.  They knew how to behave by 4 or 5 years old, absolutely. Now, would it be ideal for every day? Of course not- but they always enjoyed it very much.

Sounds like this problem will largely work itself in about a year anyway, OP, as the younger one starts school. [/quote]

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