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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m the one in my group who married late as is my husband among his college and grad school friends. That may make me biased, but I do know a few people who truly seemed to settle. I was genuinely worried about one woman I know through my husband. She is vibrant, funny, and outgoing. She loves travel, adventure, and  is an excellent cook. She married a short l, bald guy with a big gut who dresses like the sale rack at a late 90s JC Penney. He’s a picky eater and his preferred vacation is to go to the same beach with his mom in tow every single year. I was screaming internally at their wedding “why is no one stopping this????”
Jokes on me. They seem extremely happy. They have 2 kids and the pandemic seemed to really draw them together and solidify everything. She’s bought him more stylish and flattering clothes and he’s come out of his shell somewhat.

I can’t say as much for my friends that married young when they were beautiful and carefree. Different people have different breaking points, but many couples we know seem to have grown apart under the stress of the more senior, responsibility laden jobs they hold in their 40s, raising kids, maintaining a house and yard. Maybe they will find a way to rekindle their relationship once they are empty nesters in their late 40s, something I won’t have until I’m nearly 60. But for the friends we’ve watched divorce, a common theme seems to be that [b]the person who was their soul mate when they could backpack around Thailand or go to happy hour 3 nights a week is not the person they want to change diapers with, talk about window replacement with, or do any of the other mundane parts of life that pile up over the years. [/b]

Putting aside the idea that people who marry late are damaged goods or settling just to have kids, I think it’s possible that what looks like settling may also be maturity and knowing what is actually important to them. [/quote]

This reminds me of such a physically beautiful couple I know. Before they married, they seemed so in sync, but now it seems they both struggle with the mundanity of married life. At least their kids will be gorgeous.[/quote]

Tom and Gisele? [/quote]

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