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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DD got into her dream school. She moves in soon, and she's quite happy. Problem is, she can't seem to shake the fact she was rejected from her 5th choice school. I am certain this is because that school was the most selective of the bunch by far. Anything I can say to her to help her shake that off? Or will school starting help?[/quote]

Note that the replies posted so far are based on the assumption that your daughter is doing OK and just has a mildly bruised ego.

Given how expensive college is and how hard college can be, it might be worthwhile to be a little paranoid about your daughter’s mental health.

If you think she’s really more anxious, depressed or otherwise messed up than other kids you know, maybe it would be worth it to see if you can arrange for her to have tutoring or telehealth counseling in place from the start, and maybe it would be good to understand what would happen to her financial aid if she dropped one or two classes.
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This is nice and everything (I recognize that it comes from a good place)- but I feel like the parent is just afraid to step up and tell it like it is.

Q? Who said anything about a financial aid package being at play?

But sure, if the parent has tried unsuccessfully to help the child to mange their thought process and to direct their internal mental messaging in a more healthy manner - then get therapy.[/quote]

Well, if the parents are rich, letting nature take its course and letting the daughter make her own choices might be a reasonable, low-impact approach.

If the daughter really has a crisis, has to drop classes or take medical leave to cope with the crisis, and that wrecks the financial aid arrangement that made paying for college possible, that’s a nightmare.

Maybe there’s not anything they can do about finances in that scenario, but maybe it would be good if they understand what they’re up against. [/quote]

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