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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of these posters who claim they would just tell the kid to just shut up & grow a pair might be telling the truth, but I suspect most of these are all tough talk & no action. [/quote]

Most of us wouldn't know because we've raised our kids better than that. We've just went through the admissions process last year and EVERY KID picked their college and moved on from disappointment immediately, in May 2023. Even my son's friend who was wait-listed at Harvard. He knew it wouldn't happen, so he picked the second best and didn't look back (he never got off the wait-list). This is because they all know it's a lottery to some extent, and top-tier colleges are well-nigh impossible to get into these days. All are happy with their choice.

So either OP made it seem more serious than it is, and she needs to tell her to cut it out, or her daughter has a mental block over this that needs to be addressed by a professional. But I can guarantee that most kids don't react like that.

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Maybe since OPs kid did get first choice (and it seems like choices 2-4 too), she doesn't have a good perspective on how grateful she should be to be in that position or on how empathetic she should be to others who aren't.

With all those acceptances, it sounds like there were not a lot of difficult conversations to be had along the way as far as her own admissions were concerned. And perhaps the family failed to step in to be sure to have the conversations regarding gratefulness and empathy for others.

(Not accusing OP of this...but...) I think people who end up on the plus-side of the school lottery (including the ones with hooks) like to believe it was all 100% earned and that those who didn't get a lottery slot could have done something different to tip the balance. They lack the perspective that comes with the rejections/WL. (but they should totally know better)    [/quote]

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