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[quote=Anonymous]I really enjoyed our reunions not that long ago every summer w. mainly our own families from my former family. That was plenty of people -all related & the younger generation enjoyed gathering w. all their cousins. More recently, however , my siblings had been inviting a lot More people , some of whom had little to DO with our activity of week long boating. A few times I'd look around & notice even my grown childs In Laws there too , & by day that entire family at the beach joining us. The in-laws were already from our own state & hometown , & I had already grown so sick of sharing our few gr.children with Them who already had lots more gr.kids and even adult children. It was always so stressful between us back home. So there was THEM. Now the Hosts, have also extended invitations to many more -mainly our grown cousins , & by now - most siblings & even some cousins I looked forward to just joining up with just among ourselves at Their home, are all excited about this ONE cousin in particular whom I Can NOT Stand! Some are now changing our original idea of just Meeting Up ourselves , & wanting to GO instead to the Reunion & all excited about -"Because Janey will be there " !. ("Janey" a fake name and really way too Cute for this domineering monster w. the BIG Mouth & not even all that attractive in looks OR personality) is also an old FCBK friend of mine who stuck her nose out & read ME Off on fcbk . after stating something really opinionated & I took the bait & left a comment. Well-SHE just stabbed me in the back on cite & full of put downs , while no one Else on there also related to us cared to defend me , not even my own siblings. They were Always SO RESPECTFUL of some of the Most obnoxious people! Really cow tailing. BTW -also since last I saw those in-laws, my grown child got divorced, but it's really awkward how much the Host still includes THEM in their lives. So many now are really interested in now attending this reunion by Next yr. & all MEETING UP . I'm so turned OFF & considering NOT attending. The reunion has also dampened the former Interest I had suggested over just we 3 cousins. Turns out -THEY also want that other cousin, "Janey" to join up over THAT too !  The Host has just ruined what had been a good thing goin -far as I'm concerned . I also blame them for interfering w. my grown childs relationship w. his wife, before & after the divorce. Sometimes a sibling also wishes they'd just QUIT inviting ALL those people & concentrate on our Own family which is large enough! But by now she's just as excited as the REST that "Janey " & HER family are coming & a lot of that also diminishes any quality time spent w. my Own family after having to travel a long ways just to get there & spend a lot of money over lodging., etc.. The Host seems to have turned it into a Popularity Contest -but really too many & the dynamics are Changed with a swing towards a reunion of frenimies., from my perspective. Some other siblings have never even attended -& just go enjoying their Own families & home where they live. I am somewhat enviable of THEM by now. I am still a little torn though -if I should attend, or not , or just wait & see what the actual Turn-Out may be over it . But -perhaps it's my Own un-doing -I still can end up serving everyone Else as Scapegoat, too in our original large family -always being the Youngest . Old family roles die hard. I may consider going elsewhere w. just my own small family , OR we COULD go there & stay w. friends there which is nice , as thats not even an option for my siblings who have No close friends left there -at least that would offer to take them in . When things get too sticky for me w. Family.It's nice having our friends to plan on spending even half of our time there with & is a great declaration over choosing to not hang around serving as Scapegoat or from attacks from a goat , herself-:"Janey ". I fail to see what the BIG deal is about this Monster . She's really not even Nice., just domineering. , and unattractive. A lot to also be said for Small Family Gathering !                    [/quote]

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