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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone is telling you it’s PPD and it’s brain chemistry.  I understand why.

There’s also the chance that you’re simply very unhappy because of a terrible situation.  A lot of women dislike having a baby but it’s not socially acceptable to share this.  You destroyed your body, can’t go to work, aren’t sleeping well or at all, can’t go to social functions etc…of course you’re unhappy!  It’s a major life change and isn’t necessarily a chemical imbalance.

Regardless get help.  But not just for PPD. Try to find a sitter, night nurse, anyone who can give you a break, even if it’s short.  Even just going for a manicure or a coffee will help your mood.  Try to start exercising with the baby as that can help and is a break from holding the baby.  Also babies cry and make sure putting the baby down in a safe place even if the baby cries.  [/quote]

I very very very much second this comment. I had (have, but it’s better) a hellaciously bad sleeper and went for months surviving on 1-2 hours broken sleep a night. I loved her but thought about harming my newborn and myself every night. This started when she hit the 4 month sleep regression and never slept again so it wasn’t even hormonal PPD because my hormones had already stabilized. My therapist said I was having a normal reaction to the incredible stress of getting no sleep and having a very high needs baby.

Get help, OP. Night nurses are a godsend and you should hire one tomorrow if sleep isn’t going well. Get time off during the day, too, even if you just use it to sit and do nothing. PPD is real but sometimes having a baby is just unexpectedly hard.[/quote]

I agree with these posters too. I had PPD/PPA after my second child but I think sometimes it really goes beyond that if you have a really traumatic birth and/or a really difficult baby, especially if your baby is a horrible sleeper like mine was. I mean I definitely had depression/anxiety after giving birth but it was not just chemical/hormonal. it was more than that. My second child was a terrible, terrible sleeper from age 4 months til age 3.5. She's now 6.5 and still not the greatest sleeper but much improved from what she was. She was great as a newborn then hit that sleep regression at 4 months and was just awful from there on like I was getting a few hours of broken sleep a night due to her screaming every 45 mins-hr all night long and she would just scream and cry until she vomited if we tried to let her cry it out. And she never took naps longer than 45 mins ever. Anyway...there are legitimate reasons for not liking having a baby and it doesn't have to just be linked to an actual, diagnosable chemical depression.[/quote]

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