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[quote=Anonymous][twitter][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yea I haven’t come across this.  Most of the people I know are happy to share info.

Maybe they don’t like you or your kid and are worried you might join a dance class and have to spend more time with you.  That is the only reason I wouldn’t share the info.[/quote]

You’ve been lucky. When I first moved here, I asked an acquaintance if she could recommend a salon. She replied “I love the girl who cuts my hair, but she’s really expensive.”

And no other information. I encounter the same with kid’s activities, restaurants, sign-ups for stuff, and even the school uniform sale. My policy to counteract this behavior is to share info completely and generously, especially when it comes to activities that fill quickly, hard to get appointments, or hard to find items.[/quote]

This is your fault! You don’t know these people well enough to ask this.

This person is saying some combo of:
“I don’t recommend my hair person because it’s not a good value” 
“I don’t want you to know where I get my hair done and how much I pay”
“I’m afraid if you find out how much I spend on my hair, you’re going to pull a face and/or comment.”[/quote]

That’s bizarre that you would have to know someone well to ask them about a hair salon. I found the climate in DC to be freakish and bizarre coming from a military base overseas where people were friendly and shared information[/quote]

I’ve been in DC 20 years and find the PP’s response super strange, too. Of course you don’t need to know someone well to ask about a salon recommendation! That is not an intimate conversation. It means that superficially, she seems to have nice enough hair not to steer you wrong there. That’s it.

You wouldn’t even have to recommend your own salon if you didn’t want to. “Oh I’ve been to a few places, I’ll write them down for you. Also, you should ask Marie because her hair always looks great so I know she’ll have good recs.” See, noncommittal, but helpful, without being weird.

Not that hard folks.[/quote]

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