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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not tell the person.  Just say you have a lot going on and will not be returning her calls or texts for a couple of weeks.  Ask her to please give you space.    Ignoring her seems to just increase the texts and calls and will drive you nuts.  [/quote]

I asked her to give me space and that I needed to take a break from social media while I worked on some things. This was met with a stream of texts “what did I do? Why are you treating me like this?”, “when can I expect to hear back from you?” “Can I check in with you every evening?” Then escalating after 1 day to “you’re being selfish!”[/quote]

This sounds more like personality disordered behavior...not diagnosing, just saying there are symptoms. Also major projection with "you are being selfish." My mother who is notoriously self-centered hurls a "you are being selfish" whenever people set boundaries with her and it makes everyone run for the hills. Major red flag when someone reacts to boundaries with insults, especially insults that actually describe their behavior.

I personally would not consider this person a friend and with the insult, I would ask her to stop contacting me. It's bad enough she is needy and cannot respect boundaries, but calling you "selfish" when you have your own stress is downright deranged. No thank you. I would set her free so she can find friends she is more compatible with.[/quote]

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