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[quote=Anonymous]Hey DCUM folks! OP burst into tears - it wasn't a calculated plan to be rude. If she was in tears, that means that she was completely stressed out. And if her mother was going to scold her for being so "inconvenienced" to help OP with her newborn for a few days, without OP being willing to be inconvenienced in return, then this tells us all we need to know about the kind of mother OP has.

I agree that OP could have just said to her mother, "Will you please get the door and give my apologies? I'm sure they will understand that I am not ready for visitors yet and that we don't want our newborn to be exposed to other children yet. If they absolutely must have a peek, give me a few minutes to pull myself together and I will see them outside with the baby for a minute."

Your mother berated you for being rude without considering how rude *she* was to invite people into your home without your knowledge or assent. And you say she has never apologized in her life. She will find out soon enough that she doesn't get to run the show when it is YOUR family in YOUR home, and it is up to you whether or not, and how often, to open your door to her.

I also agree with those who said that you could write a brief apology to your uncle, explaining that you were sleep-deprived and visits with baby must be outside and arranged in advance, but you didn't mean to be rude and emotional and look forward to a visit when conditions are better.

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