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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woke signaling aside -- which this is by the way, conscious or not -- this always ends poorly.

You say you can't believe someone would give a three year old a hard time about something as silly as nail polish.

I say I can't believe a parent would set their child up for bullying or embarrassment over something as silly as nail polish.

I wear nail polish sometimes and my young two sons ask about it. I respond, "Nail polish is for girls. Are y'all ready for your snack?" Case closed.

I agree their interest in it is purely innocent, but because I love and care about them, I wouldn't open them up to ridicule. [/quote]

So, you're raising kids to be the bullies, and you think OP is the bad parent?

You do know that in the end, the bullies are the ones who end up miserable?  You don't love your kids enough to prevent that.  That's really sad.  [/quote]

Not at all. I would never encourage them to make comments about someone else. In fact, my son actually came home saying that one of his buddies had painted nails. I said, "Oh gotcha! It sounds like that in his family boys paint their nails sometimes. In our family, just the girls paint nails. You ready to go get in the car?"

There are realities to life, and biological and cultural differences between boys and girls. I'm sorry you are fighting that every step of the way, and overcomplicating simple concepts for your very young children as a result. You don't love YOUR kids enough, it sounds like. [/quote]

I agree with your approach. Once they hit preschool age you have to redirect their focus and wean them off the accessories and clothing that is girly for their own good. My boy also liked to do what OP's son does and we let him do that stuff when he was a toddler, but only at home. Stuff like wearing his sister's barrettes and bracelets. The first time we said "that's better for girls like your sister. how about this instead for boys like you?" he was a little confused but eventually got used to it. Now he is a big kid who has no interest in that stuff. It's for the best.

If he was a 16 year old boy choosing for himself to wear black nail polish and clip on earrings as a fashion statement, that's a totally different situation. A teen has so much more agency than a little kid.[/quote]

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