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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b] I showed him the text and said “I asked you to get pasta shells. What happened?” [/b]

This doesn’t sound like great communication on your part either. You sound like you are his mother and he is your child. Even if you’re not doing it on purpose, who [i]does[/i] want to be spoken to as if they were stupid?[/quote]

Oh hell no. He’s yelling at her to tell him what kind of pasta to get. Why doesn’t he have any responsibility to read? Acknowledge he made a mistake? [/quote]

The kicker is, all he had to do is look at the text, read it, think, and apologize. “Oh jeez, I missed that, sorry, won’t happen again,” and move on.

Then no hurt feelings on either side. She wouldn’t be talking about it nor posting on DCUM. Everyone moves on and he takes more time and care reading is ructions.

Instead, he escalates, blows up, DARVO pattern, and starts an argument to deflect. That’s verbal and emotional abuse.

I cannot imagine going through this pattern multiple times a week. I hope the children don’t copy his terrible behavior. [/quote]

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