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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She may just not be very smart and therefore she has more reason to be cheerful than most of us smart ones. [/quote]

Such a strange thing to say!

OP, I have noticed people who are from the DC/MD/VA area are less trustful, and maybe a little more bitter, for whatever real or perceived reason. They also tend to pride themselves on being "introverts". My friends who have resided all around the world (or at least all around the nation!) tend to take themselves less seriously, be more accepting of all kinds of people (including egads, extroverts!), and are more live and let live types - which I did not understand until having lived elsewhere for a short period.

Point being, not everything is about you, and the smartest people I know are also good with people (including being personable and friendly) - I try to learn from them, instead of being paranoid and accusatory.  Try it!  [/quote]

Hmmm. I was super trusting and also naturally cheerful when I moved to the DMV, and for about a decade after that. I got burned big time a few years back and have been working hard to be more skeptical of people and also to modulate my behavior to be less overtly friendly when dealing with people outside my immediate family and a close circle of friends. While not everyone in the DMV is like this, there are quite a few people here with what I call "sharp elbows" who are happy to take advantage of someone if it will get them an advantage. There are also many people here who assume that someone who friendly and cheerful is dumber than someone more serious and cynical.

It is annoying to have to "split" my personality this way, but I have found it does make it easier for me to navigate professional spaces and acquaintances. I think of it as saving my best for the people who deserve it. But yeah, I am way less trusting and friendly than I used to be. I learned the hard way.[/quote]

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