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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, either invite them or don’t invite them. But there is no way you can “invite” them to stay in a hotel and make a holiday meal for you.

In your shoes, I would sit down WITH MY HUSBAND and I’d tell him:

“I’m not up for travel. If you would like to invite your parents to stay here, that is fine, but know this: I will not be hosting. Any cooking and cleaning, decorating and entertaining is on you. I’m going to be living home life as normal. I will not be changing sheets, cooking a holiday meal, etc. If you want to cook, go for it. If you want to order take-out, go for it. I am being very clear with you that I’m not up for being hostess with the mostess, so if you want to invite them, you are going to be the host on duty.”[/quote]

Hopefully this is something OP can do and her husband follow through with but I know my husband would overpromise and then not deliver in this scenario. [/quote]

This really isn’t hard. When my in-laws came for the holidays, MIL helped DH put sheets on the bed, and DH made us all instant ramen for Christmas dinner and served wine. It was fun! Instant ramen is always delicious! I did nothing! In-laws praised DH’s cooking skills, and fun was had by all.[/quote]

+1. People make holidays so complicated and miserable. I handed all the duties to DH. He got some frozen Trader Joe’s meals and some wine and we all had a low stress good time. [/quote]

+2. We do this same thing for Thanksgiving. My kids hate all the traditional Thanksgiving foods so we just buy a bunch of snacks at TJ and call it a day. All the memories created are happy ones.[/quote]

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