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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks! I have this vision of family vacations in the future. The past few days have been especially tough as divorce process is getting real and some of the behaviors of yelling and insults have been present. But our kids are early elementary and this trip would be more centered on them. I want them to have good memories and hope we can be civil. Honestly less stressful on my own emotionally but don’t want my spouse to feel left out. [/quote]

I you are having visions of family vacations in the future, I suggest you stay married. That thinking is delusional. You will see the rare post from people who say they vacation with their ex and kids but the vast majority of divorced people do not.

Even if you start out doing this, this will fall apart once one of you gets in a relationship with someone else.

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Wrong, wrong, wrong. [/quote]

+1 some people put kids first even if divorced. No relationship is worth it. Ex and I agree no other person will impact our parenting. Neither of us plan to remarry. [/quote]

And how long have you been divorced? You seriously think your ex is going to stay single for life to cater to and vacation with you, his ex? Dream on.

I have divorced friends like this who had this vision. Women who initiated the divorce, thought they would still spend holidays together, have a great coparenting relationship. Now they are all mad at their exes, and sometimes their exes new wives, for not adhering to this fantasy.[/quote]

I’ve been divorced for five years. We stopped spending holidays together before we divorced, but we still do kids, birthdays and occasional dinners and a beach weekend every year. Five years post divorce we are more adamant that neither of us are ever getting remarried. There is a small possibility, of course, but neither of us seeing it happening at least for 10 years when the kids are grown up, and if it did happen sooner, there would be an ironclad prenup, but pretty much both of us. Agree that or not letting anybody else get involved in our parenting.[/quote]

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